Talking About Alcohol and Other Drugs

The following is excerpted from an article that appeared in The College Parent Advisor, published by College Parents of America, by William DeJong, project director at the Higher Education Center, and Linda Devine, Assistant Dean of Student Life at the University of Oregon.

The following eight talking points aim to assist parents in talking with their students about alcohol and other drugs.

1. Set clear and realistic expectations regarding academic performance. Studies conducted nationally have demonstrated that partying may contribute as much to a student's decline in grades as the difficulty of his or her academic work. If students know their parents expect sound academic work, they are likely to be more devoted to their studies and have less time to get in trouble with alcohol and other drugs.
2. Stress to students that alcohol and other drugs are toxic and excessive consumption can fatally poison. This is not a scare tactic. The fact is students die every year from alcohol poisoning and drug overdoses. Discourage alcohol and other drug abuse through participation in games, fraternity hazing, or in any other way. Parents should ask their students to also have the courage to intervene when they see someone putting their life at risk through participation in alcohol and other drug abuse.
3. Tell students to intervene when classmates are in trouble with alcohol or other drugs. Nothing is more tragic than an unconscious student being left to die while others either fail to recognize that the student is in jeopardy or fail to call for help due to fear of getting the student in trouble.
4. Tell students to stand up for their right to a safe academic environment. Students who do not drink or use drugs can be affected by the behavior of those who do, ranging from interrupted study time to assault or unwanted sexual advances. Students can confront these problems directly by discussing them with the offender. If that fails, they should notify the housing director or other residence hall staff.
5. Know the alcohol and other drug scene on campus and talk to students about it. Students grossly exaggerate the use of alcohol and other drugs by their peers. Students are highly influenced by peers and tend to drink up to what they perceive to be the norm. Confronting misperceptions about alcohol use is vital.
6. Avoid tales of drinking exploits from your own college years. Entertaining students with stories of drinking back in "the good old days" normalizes what, even then, was abnormal behavior. It also appears to give parental approval to dangerous alcohol consumption.
7. Encourage your student to volunteer in community work. In addition to structuring free time, volunteerism provides students with opportunities to develop job-related skills and to gain valuable experience. Helping others also gives students a broader outlook and a healthier perspective on the opportunities they enjoy. Volunteer work on campus helps students further connect with their school, increasing the likelihood of staying in college.
8. Make it clear -- Underage alcohol consumption, alcohol-impaired driving, and other drug use are against the law. Parents should make it clear that they do not condone breaking the law. Parents of college students should openly and clearly express disapproval of underage drinking, dangerous alcohol consumption, and other drug use. And, if parents themselves drink, they should present a positive role model in the responsible use of alcohol.

Talk with your student about alcohol and other drugs. While parents may not be able to actively monitor students away from home, they can be available to talk and listen, and that is just as important. It can do more than help shape lives, it can save lives.

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